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In our increasingly connected world, it’s paradoxical how many of us feel a profound sense of disconnection. Despite the ‘always available’ 24/7 of digital life, many of us find ourselves grappling with loneliness.
Research indicates that loneliness is not just a fleeting emotion but a growing public health concern. The Australian Institute of Health and Welfare highlights that social isolation and loneliness can significantly impact our mental and physical health, leading to issues like depression, anxiety, and even a shorter lifespan.
Understanding the Cause of Loneliness
Loneliness often stems from significant life transitions. For women, these can include shifts such as changes in your career, perimenopause, our children needing us less, illness, divorce, loss, lack of support, low self-esteem, or other changes in family dynamics and close relationships. Loss of self-expression and life purpose or a refocus in life direction, all contribute. These transitions can disrupt our established social networks, our confidence, and sense of belonging, leaving you feeling unanchored.
Moreover, the digital age, while offering unprecedented connectivity, can sometimes exacerbate our feelings of isolation. The curated realities on social media platforms can lead to comparisons and a sense of inadequacy, deepening the chasm of loneliness.
Personal Reflections
For me, working solo in my home-based studio comes with moments of loneliness. Especially when things feel overwhelming. Being an A-type Virgo, I can sometimes struggle with a clear sense of purpose — particularly during times I feel stuck or can’t build momentum. Having to figure out all the answers, all the time, can be isolating.
The COVID and post-COVID years were a real trial for me. That slow return to life, without much structure or clarity, was harder than I’d expected.
At home, I’m an extrovert in a family of introverts — which presents its own dynamic. I gain energy from being around people, while my loved ones recharge through quiet. My husband Stu works in a big corporate job, which he loves, and I love that for him — but it also requires long hours and regular travel.
His ADHD means I sometimes feel overlooked, even though I know he loves me deeply. It’s part of the package: the hyper focus, the distraction. Over time, I’ve learned to ask for what I need, and that’s helped balance our relationship in the most meaningful way.
That’s also why I cherish the friendships I have — in life and in business. The women in my world make me laugh, challenge me to grow, and help me feel seen. They fill up a side of me that gently pushes loneliness away.
How to Feel Less Alone
While loneliness is a complex emotion, there are gentle, real-life actions you can take that can help restore connection.
- Your Community: Joining local groups or regular classes can provide a wonderful sense of belonging and shared purpose. It can feel nerve wracking at first, to turn up as the newbie, but little steps towards a new direction that makes you feel more alive are almost always worth it.
- Rendezvous! As the French say! When possible, opt for face-to-face meetings and catch ups, which can offer deeper connections, and maybe even some belly laugh moments and shared understanding. A casual coffee or an evening walk with a friend can create joy.
- Reduce Passive Social Media Use: This is a tough one. But being mindful of time spent on social platforms and with certain types of content, and focusing on in-real-life, meaningful interactions can alleviate feelings of isolation.
- Seek Support: Therapists and counsellors can provide helpful insights, tools and strategies to navigate feelings of loneliness and highlight any blind spots. Even a massage or pedicure (physical touch) can be good for the soul.
- Cultivate Self-Compassion: Invest in yourself. Reconnect with rituals that help you feel grounded—like reading, gardening, baking, being in nature, visiting a gallery, a cup of tea on the back step while the sun’s shining, or practicing mindfulness—can reinforce a positive relationship with a really important person – you.
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